callistra: Fuschia from Sinfest crying her heart out next to Hell's flames (Default)
callistra ([personal profile] callistra) wrote2007-03-28 11:03 am

I guess today is a weepy day

I just saw the footage on TV of the swimmer being attacked by her father. I hope he gets put away. People need to know that's NOT RIGHT.

I have a funeral on Friday.

I'm so not a ball of chirpiness today. All I want to do is cry and comfort eat, neither of which is good.

*sigh*

And I have to clean tears off my glasses again.

[identity profile] willowgypsy.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 03:11 am (UTC)(link)
*hands you the tim tams*

I am right there with you sister...

35 mins til I need to leave

I can't concentrate on work, can't concentrate on anything, staring out the window wondering where 11 years went.

I am sorry you have a funeral to go to - knowing people won't be in our lives anymore is hard to take.

My eyes keep leaking on my keyboard.

[identity profile] redbraids.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 03:48 am (UTC)(link)
Sending *hugs*

Comfort eating.

[identity profile] battblush.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 04:14 am (UTC)(link)
I just ate half a block of chocolate. And now I hate myself more :(

I wish we could move south of the river again. I think we could both do with the company today.

I hate being so far away.

[identity profile] girliejones.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 04:23 am (UTC)(link)
That footage is pretty disturbing. And the worst of it is he is her father - surely she will have to go home with him? And also - that this goes on all the time when noone hasa camera round to record it.

[identity profile] divaflip.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 04:44 am (UTC)(link)
*whistling casually*

make sure to check your letter box, either today or tomorrow

[identity profile] discordia13.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 05:20 am (UTC)(link)
Well at least something is being done:
http://www.abc.net.au/news/newsitems/200703/s1883788.htm

I wish you well for Friday. I hate em myself.

[identity profile] callistra.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 05:25 am (UTC)(link)
Now would be a really bad time to clean your keyboard. Do NOT turn the keyboard upside down whilst it is doused in tears. Otherwise the keyboard kibble will stick together and start chasing small dogs.

Yuck.

[identity profile] callistra.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 05:27 am (UTC)(link)
*rrrgh*
incoherent right now sorry.
Will tryand say what i was trying to say later after a nap.

[identity profile] callistra.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 05:27 am (UTC)(link)
I got a present!! You are so awesome!! You made me cry again, but in a good way! And thanks for the hint in the corner, because one of my thoughts was indeed along those lines!

*hugs* to you and the present too!

(Anonymous) 2007-03-28 05:59 am (UTC)(link)
my pleasure :)

it has been 'in progress' for ages, but due to work and uni and moving house this saturday it kept getting delayed. I finally got my act together on the weekend and got to the post office on Monday, but I wasn't sure how long it would take to arrive.

and I'm especially pleased it arrived on a day when you really needed a nice surprise, because that kind of thing is always good. yay :D

[identity profile] divaflip.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 06:02 am (UTC)(link)
ok, that was from me. my puter logged me out when it had a hissyfit and shut down

[identity profile] callistra.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 07:43 am (UTC)(link)
Ok, coherence has returned! I'm not 100% sure as to what my exact point was going to be, but apparently the police were there within an hour, the swimming organization was majorly pissed off they didn't get notified first, daddy got taken to a station for question, daughter got taken to a hotel for questioning, and the court case begins tomorrow with apparent sentencing by Sunday at the latest.

And yes, this happens around us all the time. At the dinner we did the other day for a women's refuge, the most interesting comment was made by the counsellor, who was saying that no one expects victims of terrorists to free themselves, and yet our society seems to think women should be able to. There's been a lot of discussion about that.

[identity profile] girliejones.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 07:44 am (UTC)(link)
(I should have come to that dinner - I don't think I knew it was for a women's refuge)

[identity profile] callistra.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 07:46 am (UTC)(link)
It's cool, I am sure there will be more.
:-)
It will be great to meet you, but I believe your attending Swancon, and we have enough overlap with friends that I am sure we might have seen each other before.

[identity profile] girliejones.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 07:48 am (UTC)(link)
We have met (at Fandomedia) but we will have a proper introduction at Swancon so you feel comfortable hassling me about such events in the future as this is actually an issue I am passionate about!

[identity profile] callistra.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 07:52 am (UTC)(link)
LOL
I have no shame in hassling people for things that I'm passionate about. (Come to Femmeconne! It's awesome!) But I do prefer a pull form of advertising rather than push.

But cool!
:-)
I'll be the one proudly walking around with a 19mo shaped hole next to me. :-) We're bringing him in on the Thursday, but I will be completely surprised when we leave him with his Grandparents on the Friday!

[identity profile] girliejones.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 07:58 am (UTC)(link)
I should come to Femmeconne, I know.

So I should recognise you by the lack of something? Hmmm..

[identity profile] callistra.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 08:03 am (UTC)(link)
foine

It'll work out.
:-)

I have glasses, short brown hair, huge grin, big boobs, big everything, and will probably be mostly sitting in a corner chatting with people or in the bar. We're at the acacia.... um.... yeah. And if you see a rapid show of women flashing their bras, it's usually because I started it. So I'll be in there somewhere.

[identity profile] girliejones.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 08:04 am (UTC)(link)
but I'll be running the other way.

I'll come up and introduce myself - else you'll recognise me at the other end of the bar.

[identity profile] callistra.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 08:06 am (UTC)(link)
Unless you're lying on your back with "dreamwalker" written next to you, I got no chance.
:-)

But I expect some of my handy friends might help out.

[identity profile] girliejones.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 08:09 am (UTC)(link)
Heh. Yeah am not blonde

[identity profile] willowgypsy.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 10:03 am (UTC)(link)
*grins* and *ewwwws* at the same time!!

[identity profile] baby-elvis.livejournal.com 2007-03-28 10:10 am (UTC)(link)
What gets me is that all the swimming people are saying 'We've never seen anything like it.' 'Cos, you know, fathers coaching their daughters is ALWAYS a good idea. Just ask Jelena Dokic, Mary Pierce, the Williams sisters etc.

One of my ex-students at St H's told me of her swimming coach hitting her when she didn't want to do something (she didn't seem to think it was out of the ordinary). I asked if she'd told her mum but she hadn't (I did). That's just ONE instance of violence in coaching that I know of. The prevalence of emotional abuse is HUGE though: I remember one being threatened with being dropped from her squad if she dared to go on school camp and miss 3 days of training. And not just a passing threat- it was weeks of pressure, the poor kid was on the verge of a breakdown over it. And don't get me started on the routine elite young gymnasts go through.

This gets attention because it's on film and it seems so extreme. Makes it hard to ignore. I abhor the actions of the man, but I abhor the acceptance of less extreme forms of abuse even more.

[identity profile] mynxii.livejournal.com 2007-03-30 12:05 am (UTC)(link)
I can also introduce you :)

[identity profile] girliejones.livejournal.com 2007-03-30 01:16 am (UTC)(link)
That too!