I think closeness comes with engagement. Facebook doesn't really allow for spaces conscious enough to be safe... it's all passing thought and comments as passing thoughts. Careful considered comments are exceptional and not the norm. I notice a real difference between my general feed and my facebook groups - like my Tom Dickens album project group. It's *lovely* and I love going and reading things that people share and contribute.
There are some blogs where I read the comments, because I trust either the moderator or the community. On Havi's blog I am always happy to read the comments, it's never been unsafe at all to me. I read comments sometimes on Bluemilk and Zero At the Bone, because I trust those bloggers as moderators, but often I'd prefer to think about what they've written, share it out amongst my other platforms and archive it in my bookmarking system than comment/debate about it. If I want to discuss further I'll usually try and blog about it (sometimes that does and doesn't happen of course).
Closeness requires connection, and closeness and connection can both have multiple meanings in a space, and be meaningful in different ways to parties - I think that provides a lot of flexibility and the opportunity to redefine and have closeness on terms that perhaps work better for you as a socially anxious or introverted person, or which makes the non-social times more engaging and social for extroverts.
I think it's largely... the energy you put in in part influences what you get out, and same with any of the other parties. It's not the only key factor but I think it is one of the more important ones. This is not to suggest 'time' as 'energy', it *can* be, but not necessarily so.
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Date: 2012-07-25 06:10 am (UTC)From:There are some blogs where I read the comments, because I trust either the moderator or the community. On Havi's blog I am always happy to read the comments, it's never been unsafe at all to me. I read comments sometimes on Bluemilk and Zero At the Bone, because I trust those bloggers as moderators, but often I'd prefer to think about what they've written, share it out amongst my other platforms and archive it in my bookmarking system than comment/debate about it. If I want to discuss further I'll usually try and blog about it (sometimes that does and doesn't happen of course).
Closeness requires connection, and closeness and connection can both have multiple meanings in a space, and be meaningful in different ways to parties - I think that provides a lot of flexibility and the opportunity to redefine and have closeness on terms that perhaps work better for you as a socially anxious or introverted person, or which makes the non-social times more engaging and social for extroverts.
I think it's largely... the energy you put in in part influences what you get out, and same with any of the other parties. It's not the only key factor but I think it is one of the more important ones. This is not to suggest 'time' as 'energy', it *can* be, but not necessarily so.