Ladies in America - Warning, a bit of a rant.

[callistra]

I don't know if it's just the lists I am on, or the fact that talking about cooking makes women open up to strangers, but I see so many emails where I sit back and think... "Honey, have you tried telling your husband to GET OUT OF THE FUCKING KITCHEN AND BLOODY WELL LET YOU COOK OR HE CAN DAMN WELL DO IT HIMSELF?"

I like to do this but my husband doesn't like vegetables chopped up into cubes. I want to do this but if it's a disaster the first time my husband won't let me do it again. My husband thinks lean cuisine type meals are too expensive but thinks if I make them myself they will be MORE expensive and won't let me do either. I live on a farm and my husband thinks the lean cuisine/frozen single serve meals will be a waste of time/too expensive. I live on a farm and my husband thinks making up home-made hamburger helper will be more expensive than buying the pre-made stuff.

WTF??

Isn't working 10/12 hour days taking up enough of his bloody time, he has to interfere in the kitchen too? And by the way, $3 an hour for a forty hour week babysitting sounds like a shocking amount of money if you're living on a farm. Grow something to sell! Sell something (like the spare children!) Grow anything and eat it! Make cheese! Sell it for a fortune! WHATEVER! Eat the children! Geese! Ducks! Chicken! Vegie patch! Bartering systems! AAAAACK!!

I spose I most annoyed with this whole "My husband doesn't let me..." sentence when it comes to cooking, a) because I se it so often on this list and b) because it's all a learning experience. If you stuff it up the first time, you learn, and try again. How frustrating and how horrible to be limited in such a way that you're not even allowed to make your own mistakes, not allowed to learn on your own.

My final advice would be to find a man who will support you and help you learn as much as you can from the life you have now. In my book, you only get the one! (Life that is, not men. I like men. *grin*)

Comments

My God!

[emma-in-oz.livejournal.com]

Unbelievable.

[kremmen.livejournal.com]

I think it's the lists you're on. I'm pretty sure I've not met any like that in the 35 states of the US that I've been to so far. However, you will realise that there are (at least) two issues which make my sample far from random:

1) I've mostly met educated, intelligent women who are single or who have educated, intelligent partners and either don't indulge in such silliness as you're talking about or are so busy earning heaps of money that they don't cook much anyhow.

2) The 35 states I've been to don't include the red-neck-infested, boring band of farming states down the middle. (This is something that all coastal US residents tell me is, indeed, the preferred situation. While they suggest that I should not go out of my way to remedy it, I suspect I will do so for the sake of completeness somewhere along the line.)

[nightmancyr.livejournal.com]

Grae doesn't bother telling me how to do things in the kitchen. He eats everything I create. :o)

[callistra.livejournal.com]

Same with chesh. I rate things much more harshly than he does; he just eats it and is happy it was tasty.
:-)

[lucretiae.livejournal.com]

I enjoy cooking but don't do it very often any more. Matt enjoys it so much more than I do that I just *couldn't* kick him out of the kitchen.
Life's tough when someone is always cooking yummy food for you *grin*

Sorry to be flippant...

[valeskah1.livejournal.com]

I read that as "talking about cooking makes women open up to stranglers" and was wondering what the story about serial-cooking-discussion-group-killers was...

I think I need to sleep more :)