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There's a lady going off about how impolite it is to NOT open presents at a wedding on one of my lists. I just want to smack her in the head.
After five minutes of thought, I realised why. She's blaming the COUPLE (and in one instance, punishing them by not buying a gift) because of HER insecurities about her present buying abilities.
Bitch. Deal. Move on. If you're that unsure, then either make arrangements to give it to them in person BEFORE or AFTER the wedding.
We had 99 people at our wedding. Roughly, that means we got a lot of nice presents on a day when we'd been up since 4 in the morning, spent about 8 hours in prep, got married, been emotional, had hours of photos, and then about 5 hours or so of reception. With a many course meal.
Um, *WHEN* does she think we could have fitted in a present opening for about 50 or so presents in such a manner that she would not feel slighted because her pressie only got 30 seconds??
It's HER problem she feels that worked up about it. John and I love giving our standard wedding present - a decent chef's knife - it's not necessarily something people look at and go "whoa, great!" but after they've used it once or twice, you can see the understanding grow... I have no problems with this. And we've yet to come across any one who didn't fall in love with the knife we bought them.
:-)
Also, I have never been to a wedding where any one opened the presents that day. Every single one has had a present opening, usually the next day when every one is hung over.
Oh, and I was naughty and never quite got thethank you notes out. We bought the paper. I had the list. It just ... didn't quite happen. Sorry every one! We loved everything we got though...
*blush* and *run*
After five minutes of thought, I realised why. She's blaming the COUPLE (and in one instance, punishing them by not buying a gift) because of HER insecurities about her present buying abilities.
Bitch. Deal. Move on. If you're that unsure, then either make arrangements to give it to them in person BEFORE or AFTER the wedding.
We had 99 people at our wedding. Roughly, that means we got a lot of nice presents on a day when we'd been up since 4 in the morning, spent about 8 hours in prep, got married, been emotional, had hours of photos, and then about 5 hours or so of reception. With a many course meal.
Um, *WHEN* does she think we could have fitted in a present opening for about 50 or so presents in such a manner that she would not feel slighted because her pressie only got 30 seconds??
It's HER problem she feels that worked up about it. John and I love giving our standard wedding present - a decent chef's knife - it's not necessarily something people look at and go "whoa, great!" but after they've used it once or twice, you can see the understanding grow... I have no problems with this. And we've yet to come across any one who didn't fall in love with the knife we bought them.
:-)
Also, I have never been to a wedding where any one opened the presents that day. Every single one has had a present opening, usually the next day when every one is hung over.
Oh, and I was naughty and never quite got thethank you notes out. We bought the paper. I had the list. It just ... didn't quite happen. Sorry every one! We loved everything we got though...
*blush* and *run*
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Date: 2005-10-21 08:03 am (UTC)From:I kept meaning to do thankyou notes. It just never happened. But then I don't send out thank-you notes after Christmas, or birthdays, so just know that I'm grateful in my heart for your lovely gift, but am a lazy arse.