Presents and Stuff

[callistra]

There's a lady going off about how impolite it is to NOT open presents at a wedding on one of my lists. I just want to smack her in the head.

After five minutes of thought, I realised why. She's blaming the COUPLE (and in one instance, punishing them by not buying a gift) because of HER insecurities about her present buying abilities.

Bitch. Deal. Move on. If you're that unsure, then either make arrangements to give it to them in person BEFORE or AFTER the wedding.

We had 99 people at our wedding. Roughly, that means we got a lot of nice presents on a day when we'd been up since 4 in the morning, spent about 8 hours in prep, got married, been emotional, had hours of photos, and then about 5 hours or so of reception. With a many course meal.

Um, *WHEN* does she think we could have fitted in a present opening for about 50 or so presents in such a manner that she would not feel slighted because her pressie only got 30 seconds??

It's HER problem she feels that worked up about it. John and I love giving our standard wedding present - a decent chef's knife - it's not necessarily something people look at and go "whoa, great!" but after they've used it once or twice, you can see the understanding grow... I have no problems with this. And we've yet to come across any one who didn't fall in love with the knife we bought them.
:-)


Also, I have never been to a wedding where any one opened the presents that day. Every single one has had a present opening, usually the next day when every one is hung over.

Oh, and I was naughty and never quite got thethank you notes out. We bought the paper. I had the list. It just ... didn't quite happen. Sorry every one! We loved everything we got though...

*blush* and *run*

Comments

[baby-elvis.livejournal.com]

That is just plain weird.

[anysia.livejournal.com]

There's a lady going off about how impolite it is to NOT open presents at a wedding on one of my lists. I just want to smack her in the head.

Keristing hell, I remember my wedding! I had no flipping time to open presents even if I had remembered they were there!

You are right..she needs to deal with and get over it.

[splanky.livejournal.com]

In all the weddings I have been to there has been _one_ where the presents were opened at the reception. And they were opened by the bridesmaids.

[wildilocks.livejournal.com]

As far as I was aware, the standard protocol is not opening presents on the day but having them proudly on display throughout the reception on one or two groaning tables of shiny, which then get bundled into someone's large-booted vehicle at the end of the day/evening. Then the bride and groom open them at their leisure in private. A few weeks later they send out thankyou notes.

You are very bad for not sending out thankyou notes!!!

[callistra.livejournal.com]

You are very bad for not sending out thankyou notes!!!

Would you like to spank me?? *perks*

Yes, that's what happens at all weddings I have been to. The tables that is, not the spanking.

[wildilocks.livejournal.com]

Hah! Somehow I don't think spanking would exactly be punishment ;P

And I've seen a bit of spanking at weddings.... oddly enough though not at the most recent one I went to...

[meljane.livejournal.com]

I ment to send thankyou notes but I never got around to it , two years later still no thank you notes .

Thanks Calli and cheshirenoir if you got us anything and more importantly thanks for coming to our wedding *hugs*.

[vegetariansushi.livejournal.com]

Confession: Maura's baby shower was three years ago, and I have totally and utterly failed to send out thankyou notes. I tried, and even wrote some, but they never got mailed, because I am a Bad Person.

[nightmancyr.livejournal.com]

I'm with you darl; there's no way the couple has time on the day to open presents.

And I never got the thankyou notes out either!

[splanky.livejournal.com]

I did my thankyou notes! *polishes halo* My ex didn't do his.

I loooove excel spreadsheets and mail merge!

Dear (field 1),

Thankyou for attending our wedding and the kind gift of the (field 2). It was (field 3).

(field 4),
the bride and groom

My mum told me to hand write them. Ha!!

[nightmancyr.livejournal.com]

PMSL wish I'd've thought of that...my notes would actually have gone out then!

[azhure.livejournal.com]

On a completely different note to the rest of the comments - a chef's knife is a *damn* good present. I will never, ever underestimate the usefulness of a good knife.

[callistra.livejournal.com]

Yup, we love to give them! It's a life thing and once you've had a decent knife, you understand the beauty of a good cut. A good knife shoudl last a life time, and we KNOW it's going to be used.
*grin*

[http://users.livejournal.com/doctor_k_/]

We didn't open our pressies for a couple of days - far too busy. There was no way we were opening them in front of the crowd - time factor, plus we were expecting the worst from some of Dave's family. I do not have a poker face. It would have been awful.

I kept meaning to do thankyou notes. It just never happened. But then I don't send out thank-you notes after Christmas, or birthdays, so just know that I'm grateful in my heart for your lovely gift, but am a lazy arse.

[shrydar.livejournal.com]

*boggle*

The whole point of wedding presents is the 'One More?' game! For weeks after the wedding, you can sit down with your beloved at random times of day, one of you asks the question, the other says 'OK!' and you open another one :o)

Must admit, although Jeanette and I wrote thankyous for all our presents, to my eternal shame many of the ones I was responsible for posting never were...