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Been a tad stressed, so I'll probably only talk in bullet points for a bit.
1) Bought a gate with a gate for kitchen doorway. Very happy. Will go back and buy another one. $90 at Big W.
2) Big W absolutely ROCKs when it comes to cheap baby clothes. I love Big W. Boy now has enough stuff to probably last next three brothers. Also, el cheapo grobags, $10 as opposed to $90.
3) Big W also rocks in their larger ladies clothes. I bought some. :-)
4) If you're an alton fan, and you've always wanted the magnetized meat thermometre which you leave in the roast the whole time it's cooking and stick the timer part to the oven, then you can get them for about $50 at Belmont, a shop called Kitchen Entrē. It's not Polder brand, so I haven't come across any whiny reviews about them not working after two goes, and the lady did not know if she had sold any of them before myself, and did not remember any customers coming back to whine at her about it if they had and it didn't work. If that makes sense. It doesn't have the timer timer function, it has an alarm which will go off for you when your meat hits either the preset temp selected or the userdefined temp selected. Roast lamb this weekend I think!
5) Funeral is on Thursday. Bunfights continuing. Cousins have macabre sense of humour, involving one WTF moment so far. Weirdos.
6) Ducks currently very, very, very cold.
7) I'm tense and stressed and giving it out freely to Chesh. And that sleeping thing is for suckers.
8) Does any one know what a mum can do when her ex-husband is mentally abusing the kids on his weekend access? She got her kids back, and the 4 yo was being abused for being a "sook" and has had 20 minute night terrors since the weekend, and has lost all confidence in doing anything he used to do. The eldest boy (6) has apparently been spending a lot of time quietly hugging his teddy and not saying much.
1) Bought a gate with a gate for kitchen doorway. Very happy. Will go back and buy another one. $90 at Big W.
2) Big W absolutely ROCKs when it comes to cheap baby clothes. I love Big W. Boy now has enough stuff to probably last next three brothers. Also, el cheapo grobags, $10 as opposed to $90.
3) Big W also rocks in their larger ladies clothes. I bought some. :-)
4) If you're an alton fan, and you've always wanted the magnetized meat thermometre which you leave in the roast the whole time it's cooking and stick the timer part to the oven, then you can get them for about $50 at Belmont, a shop called Kitchen Entrē. It's not Polder brand, so I haven't come across any whiny reviews about them not working after two goes, and the lady did not know if she had sold any of them before myself, and did not remember any customers coming back to whine at her about it if they had and it didn't work. If that makes sense. It doesn't have the timer timer function, it has an alarm which will go off for you when your meat hits either the preset temp selected or the userdefined temp selected. Roast lamb this weekend I think!
5) Funeral is on Thursday. Bunfights continuing. Cousins have macabre sense of humour, involving one WTF moment so far. Weirdos.
6) Ducks currently very, very, very cold.
7) I'm tense and stressed and giving it out freely to Chesh. And that sleeping thing is for suckers.
8) Does any one know what a mum can do when her ex-husband is mentally abusing the kids on his weekend access? She got her kids back, and the 4 yo was being abused for being a "sook" and has had 20 minute night terrors since the weekend, and has lost all confidence in doing anything he used to do. The eldest boy (6) has apparently been spending a lot of time quietly hugging his teddy and not saying much.
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Date: 2006-04-04 02:13 pm (UTC)From:http://www.aifs.gov.au/nch/reporting.html
"The following list provides contact telephone numbers for each State and Territory to report incidences of child abuse.
Western Australia
• Departmental Head Office: (08) 9222 2555
• After hours: (08) 9223 1111
Will keep looking online
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Date: 2006-04-04 02:17 pm (UTC)From:http://www.legalaid.wa.gov.au/InfoAboutLaw/aspx/default.aspx?Page=Domestic/ViolenceFamily.xml
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Date: 2006-04-04 02:54 pm (UTC)From:1. The number given above is for the after hours and crisis service. Given that they mostly stay with their mum, Cris Care may just ask for the caller to contact their local DCD office during the day.
2. A violence restraining order probably isn't appropriate in this case, unless the point is to deny the father access.
A mediation service, either through the family court, Anglicare or the Department for Community development (DCD) may be able to sort this out, possibly with reference to parenting skills training.
Legal Aid offers the Alternative dispute Resolution Family Conferencing program (info on 1300 650 579) that draws up legally binding documents that can include conditions such as parenting skills.
3. Counselling can be accessed through several places. Maybe start with DCD, as they are more likely to provide free services. Centrecare, Kinway and Relationships Australia also offer family and children's counselling among other services.
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Date: 2006-04-04 03:29 pm (UTC)From:2. In regards to restraining order
In cases where a family and domestic relationship exists, an act of abuse has a special meaning and includes:
behaving in a way that is frightening, offensive or emotionally abusive
3. Seek support and advice
Child abuse may happen when stressed parents or caregivers lack support. Children can get hurt when things get out of hand. If feelings of anger or stress start to take over you need to talk to families, friends, support persons, counsellors, support services in the community or staff at the local metropolitan DCD office or country DCD office during office hours. After hours contact should be made by contacting Crisis Care on (08) 9 223 1111 or 1800 199008 (freecall for STD callers).
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Date: 2006-04-04 03:35 pm (UTC)From:http://www.community.wa.gov.au/Resources/Child+Protection/Addressing+Concerns+about+Child+Safety.htm#safety
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Date: 2006-04-04 11:52 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2006-04-04 11:49 pm (UTC)From:I think that this is/was a part of the custody case, but I don't know. I don't know if he bothered to turn up for some of the sessions.
What about actually proving that he has been verbally abusive? Apparently he lets the two older kids smack the baby (now about 18 months old) and smacks him himself. Does she need to find a way to prove it? Teachers have noticed the confidence drops and the boys who are at school play up more and are obviously unhappy when they come back from a weekend at their dad's.
Mind you, I should also point out, this was the first time he had his three boys since his twins have been born. So they had five ((unwanted)) children in the house at once.
I sometimes wish I could just set fire to him.
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Date: 2006-04-05 03:16 am (UTC)From:DCD can arrange for the kids to be interviewed, then submit (or have subpoenaed) the report to the family court.
A lot depends on what happened in the custody hearing, and whether there were conditions or a court order as an outcome. A court order can require attendance at mediation/counselling/parenting courses.
Does she want him to have access or part time custody? Does he want it?
The teachers can report the behaviour changes to DCD, and they will be put into the system for any future name searches to hit.
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Date: 2006-04-05 07:56 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2006-04-04 02:17 pm (UTC)From:no subject
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Date: 2006-04-04 11:45 pm (UTC)From::-)
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Date: 2006-04-05 07:53 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2006-04-04 02:45 pm (UTC)From:thanks for the link btw - it was tre cool!!
Yay for Big W and their uber coolness for babies and mums :)
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Date: 2006-04-05 12:05 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2006-04-05 01:07 am (UTC)From::-)
And Big W is the only place where I've seen s26 gold step 2 for less than $21. :-) (It was 19.99 or something like...)
I'm hanging out for an Aldi over here. I've heard they are very good...
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Date: 2006-04-05 07:32 am (UTC)From:however, if she's not willing to actually go through the process of removing them completely from the father, another option is family therapy through kinway/anglicare/the various child and adolescent mental health service centres (CAMHS), where the whole family spends time with a therapist problem-solving and sorting through issues. last resort (least useful) is individual therapy for the kids from any source (kinway/anglicare/centrecare/dcd/camhs/private therapist), but since it won't change the problem (dad), it'll only be a bandaid fix.
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Date: 2006-04-05 07:38 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2006-04-05 07:40 am (UTC)From:good luck...