Bat Phone - Help!

[callistra]

I have a friend whose husband has left her with two children and she is due to have her third baby in about three weeks. Her mum lives in Denmark, and has taken the two girls to give her some rest, but she has no one to help her with the birth. Her fucker of a husband won't be there, and she is depressed at the moment (understandably) and lives in Mandurah.

Does any one know of any sort of service that can help her, either by providing support or something? I can't get to Mandurah in any sort of decent time, plus I don't have the back up systems in place like I did for Splanky.

She is due in three weeks!

God I hate men sometimes.
This is the second time a man has left an 8 months pregnant woman with two previous of his children. If it's so fucking rare and we don't need feminism any more, then why the fuck does this keep happening? Why the fuck does a man think that a single night a fortnight is "parenting" or "fathering" a child? It's more disruptive than helpful, and really, I bet he will whine about child support and all that shit too. Fucker.

Comments

[kaths.livejournal.com]

Just wonder in general about why people can make such a momentous decision to have another child when they're struggling with their current circumstances.

Glad it doesn't have anything to do with this situation. Perhaps it wasn't appropriate to bring it up, it only sprung to mind because it seems to be relevent in a lot of cases where relationships break down and young children are involved.

But in those situations too, just abandoning the mother to deal with it all is also shitty - even if they're not in a relationship with the mother any more (for whatever reasons), that doesn't change their responsibility towards the children.

[callistra.livejournal.com]

even if they're not in a relationship with the mother any more (for whatever reasons), that doesn't change their responsibility towards the children.

Complete yes!

[redbraids.livejournal.com]

Grr, yes! One should still have responsibility to the child!!!

I wonder if part of the answer is in parenting / role-modelling for boys and young men? Often activities that try and catch behaviour in adults are more difficult. There is the need to start young and teach children to respect everyone, of both sexes. Parents, schools etc.

[callistra.livejournal.com]

Sounds good to me. How do we slip it into the curriculum?
:-)

[redbraids.livejournal.com]

Perhaps by teacher training?

Additionally, some of these issues about having balance in human relationships is folded into the panel that I have suggested for Gynacon... that both sexes get the short end of the stick and that a balanced view of understanding personal/life stages can help everyone.

Yeah, yeah, it sounds like I have been talking to M, but I have been reading about these issues for a while :-)

[fe2h2o.livejournal.com]

Early childhood studies... which is self selecting for those who are interested in babies... yr 11 and 12 girls for the most part.

It fits in the Health and PE learning area... but I don't know that a number of PE teachers are really the people for the job!

And _more_ things to teach in the classroom? There's already no time at all.

As with so many of the things that have been added in, they're ideally taught in the family... of course, for that to be effective, the parents have to have the skills or be willing to access them. And if they don't...? It doesn't work.

[purrdence.livejournal.com]

And _more_ things to teach in the classroom? There's already no time at all.

Quite.

In my evil little world I'd be having the boys doing Early childhood studies too.